After breaking up with her long-term boyfriend, writer Kate Leaver decided to use Tinder to live out her ultimate fantasy - sleeping with another woman and the experience taught her more about herself than ever before. Friday night, and I'm two hours, four cocktails and three intense kisses into my first-ever date with a woman. We stumble out of a tiny bar onto the street and look at each other. She puts her arm around my waist, pulls me into her, bites my bottom lip and whispers in my ear, "So, are you coming home with me?

As far as first-time lesbian experiences go, experimenting with someone of the same sex is thankfully less taboo than it's ever been, thanks in large part to the work of LGBTQIA activists and creators championing narratives from all parts of the sexuality spectrum. Lesbian porn is the most popular porn category among women, and plenty of women are also reading lesbian stories on erotica sites. We asked women of all different sexual orientations to recount their first lesbian experience and same-sex encounters. Here are their stories:. In our early 30s my husband and I decided to open our marriage to some sexual exploration and went on a date with a couple. We immediately hit it off.

How do you have lesbian sex? Alternately, if you want it to be a big deal, it can be. But ultimately every partner is different — totally, completely, entirely different — from the next. So what could we tell you, really? Meanwhile, others recall hopping into bed and instinctually knowing what to do from the moment of entry.

This is why having sex with a woman is so good. When having sex with a woman, touch her in the places you, yourself, found pleasurable. On one hand, she can tell you precisely to concentrate on a spot. On the other hand, it deepens your bond as you get to know each other. It might be disconcerting to some and exciting for others.